[45/366] crush, and valentine
Feb. 14th, 2020 08:21 pm14 Who was the first person you had a crush on? Was it requited?
I mean, because they're asking about requitedness, I assume that "Data from Star Trek" isn't the kind of answer they're looking for (yes, I always went for the neurodivergent people).
In real life? I have no idea. I remember in sixth grade I pretended to have a crush on this boy, Cody, that my best friend had a crush on (I even bought two entire albums just because he liked them!) but I was just cargo-culting it in a doomed attempt to fit in. (Cody was a jerk, anyway.) I didn't really understand what a crush was, or what really motivated it.
I still don't, a lot of the time. I'm not demisexual or ace or anything but I just...don't really think about people as having any romantic or sexual interest for me until I know them. I can sometimes see what my friends find fanciable when they tell me about a crush, but it doesn't occur to me otherwise. This is why my list of celebrity crushes is practically non-existent (some fictional characters (not Data any more) make the list if I do feel sufficiently like I know them, but that's pretty rare too).
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Stuart sent me a valentine, he always does bless him (including the valentines day that was before we got back together), an actual one through the mail and everything. This year's seemed pretty typical; Andrew and I agreed it was Very Him when I had opened and read it and showed him.
When I described it for![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
diffrentcolours -- "it has a pun and something lewd and it's about bins" -- he said it was very me! I told him I couldn't argue with the first two, but bins? "Because you're a Lib Dem!" he said. I laughed. Bins are not quite as iconic as Lib Dems and potholes but they're right up there.
I saw some Discourse today on Mastodon where polyamorous people said Valentine's Day isn't for them, that it's somehow inherently monogamous, but I like that one valentine card ended up being something all of my partners could participate in.
I mean, because they're asking about requitedness, I assume that "Data from Star Trek" isn't the kind of answer they're looking for (yes, I always went for the neurodivergent people).
In real life? I have no idea. I remember in sixth grade I pretended to have a crush on this boy, Cody, that my best friend had a crush on (I even bought two entire albums just because he liked them!) but I was just cargo-culting it in a doomed attempt to fit in. (Cody was a jerk, anyway.) I didn't really understand what a crush was, or what really motivated it.
I still don't, a lot of the time. I'm not demisexual or ace or anything but I just...don't really think about people as having any romantic or sexual interest for me until I know them. I can sometimes see what my friends find fanciable when they tell me about a crush, but it doesn't occur to me otherwise. This is why my list of celebrity crushes is practically non-existent (some fictional characters (not Data any more) make the list if I do feel sufficiently like I know them, but that's pretty rare too).
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Stuart sent me a valentine, he always does bless him (including the valentines day that was before we got back together), an actual one through the mail and everything. This year's seemed pretty typical; Andrew and I agreed it was Very Him when I had opened and read it and showed him.
When I described it for
diffrentcolours -- "it has a pun and something lewd and it's about bins" -- he said it was very me! I told him I couldn't argue with the first two, but bins? "Because you're a Lib Dem!" he said. I laughed. Bins are not quite as iconic as Lib Dems and potholes but they're right up there.I saw some Discourse today on Mastodon where polyamorous people said Valentine's Day isn't for them, that it's somehow inherently monogamous, but I like that one valentine card ended up being something all of my partners could participate in.