[45/366] crush, and valentine

[cosmolinguist]

14 Who was the first person you had a crush on? Was it requited?

I mean, because they're asking about requitedness, I assume that "Data from Star Trek" isn't the kind of answer they're looking for (yes, I always went for the neurodivergent people).

In real life? I have no idea. I remember in sixth grade I pretended to have a crush on this boy, Cody, that my best friend had a crush on (I even bought two entire albums just because he liked them!) but I was just cargo-culting it in a doomed attempt to fit in. (Cody was a jerk, anyway.) I didn't really understand what a crush was, or what really motivated it.

I still don't, a lot of the time. I'm not demisexual or ace or anything but I just...don't really think about people as having any romantic or sexual interest for me until I know them. I can sometimes see what my friends find fanciable when they tell me about a crush, but it doesn't occur to me otherwise. This is why my list of celebrity crushes is practically non-existent (some fictional characters (not Data any more) make the list if I do feel sufficiently like I know them, but that's pretty rare too).

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Stuart sent me a valentine, he always does bless him (including the valentines day that was before we got back together), an actual one through the mail and everything. This year's seemed pretty typical; Andrew and I agreed it was Very Him when I had opened and read it and showed him.

When I described it for diffrentcolours -- "it has a pun and something lewd and it's about bins" -- he said it was very me! I told him I couldn't argue with the first two, but bins? "Because you're a Lib Dem!" he said. I laughed. Bins are not quite as iconic as Lib Dems and potholes but they're right up there.

I saw some Discourse today on Mastodon where polyamorous people said Valentine's Day isn't for them, that it's somehow inherently monogamous, but I like that one valentine card ended up being something all of my partners could participate in.

Comments

[redbird]

I'm not big on Valentine's Day, but I don't think that's because I'm poly. There's a significant difference, I think, between "Happy Valentine's Day, I love you" or "I want to grow old together" and things like "You are my one and only."

Quite a few years ago, I was visiting adrian_turtle on Valentine's Day weekend. She gave me a rose when she met me at the station, and told me it was from a bouquet that her other long-distance partner had sent her. I'm sure there are people who would think that was tacky, but I found it sweet.

[cosmolinguist]

I think that's sweet too! You're right, it's not for everybody, but I'd love it.

[jesse_the_k]

Although it's not actually a Hallmark Holiday, I can imagine that the brains at the card factory may well have monogamy in mind. As you so often demonstrate, that won't stop you from living your best life.

[azurelunatic]

This year on Twitter I wrote a poem to my four quadrants. (I have additional crushes, but those four are pretty significant.)

[silveradept]

That sounds like a very interesting valentine.

(I acknowledge Red Day, but that's about as far as it goes.)