I’m pretty sure I can be a very good platonic friend even if I sometimes want to make out with you

[cosmolinguist]

The entry I'm not writing tonight is about being secretly attracted to platonic friends.

What aren't you writing about today?

Comments

[magister]

Pretty much the same, to be honest.

[indigopirate.livejournal.com]

I'm rubbish at the whole secret bit normally if I think someone is hot they know about it

[indigopirate.livejournal.com]

This dosent hinder my ability to be a platonic friend (unless I am too drunk) I just end up being a platonic friend who says what they think

[cosmolinguist]

I usually say what I think but sometimes I know it wouldn't be a good idea or might not be welcome news to my friend. :)

[drjon.livejournal.com]

I wasn't going to write about my neck being out and waking me up at 3:30am. But now i think i won't write about being secretly attracted to platonic friends too.

[cosmolinguist]

I had that last night too! (Though I don't know what time I woke up.) Stupid necks. Stupid lack of sleep.

[cosmolinguist]

This stuff is complicated. ::hugs:: I probably will end up writing about it -- I was just too tired last night -- as I have Thoughts about this, but apparently last night I was egotistical enough to worry that maybe people would think I was talking about fancying them (or maybe Andrew would think I fancied everybody else, which when he's as stressed as he is wouldn't seem fair of me, especially when it's not even true!) so I thought I'd introduce it as a silly topic and see if I get back to it.

I have many other things I want to write here, though, not least being the follow-up details to my entry about seeing less deeply :)

[cosmolinguist]

Lies! I fancy hardly anybody.

[indigopirate.livejournal.com]

Don't worry, I suspect my Andrew thinks I fancy everyone else as well and while I do fancy/fall for a fair number of others none of this diminishes how passionatly I feel for Andrew I'm crazy about him and nothing has changed that so far

[cosmolinguist]

I totally understand that :) If anything, I'm happier than I would be if I felt I couldn't enthuse at him about a crush or something...but it is still true that this hardly ever happens :) Last time I remember enthusing at him about a crush was at least five years ago!

[cosmolinguist]

How do these questions become more (or less!) complicated by polyamory or by attraction to someone whose sexual orientation doesn't include your gender identity?

I was especially intending to talk about things like this, because it's a stereotype of both bisexual people and poly people that they are attracted to everyone/will try it on with anybody indiscriminately. Which, I'm sure you'll be shocked to hear, is far from the truth :) But I think it can affect how people interact.

[cosmolinguist]

I've seen people in t-shirts with variations of that printed on them :)

[indigopirate.livejournal.com]

ooh interesting subject! thats hard and comlicated I have had platonic relationships where I have fallen in love with the friend (sometiimes this has been mutual but friendship has remained platonic even when neither of us is asexual) and emotionally the boundary lines become different sexually they have remained.
I am very tactile with all of my friends once i get to know them. I do sometimes find that if I am very physically attracted to a friend who is not attracted to me i'm aware of how tactile i can be and make an effort not to put them in a awkward situation.
I'm not sure if being poly makes any difference i dont know how i'd react to those situations if i wasn't.

[whipchick.livejournal.com]

I'm not writing my novel, and I think having a big gig with rehearsal today and show tomorrow is a good reason, but I'm having such a hard time getting the momentum going! Hopefully NaNo will help, I miss that competition aspect to keep me going.

[cosmolinguist]

Yeah I have no motivation lately. I blame the weather, and the new job, both making me tired all the time.

[mrs-leroy-brown.livejournal.com]

It has taken me several re-read to see that the word is PLATONIC and not PLASTIC as my brain read.

I am less confused now.


This pointless tale of brain-gooofiness is brought to you by prescription sleeping tablets and general foggery.

[haggis.livejournal.com]

I read it as 'attacked by platonic friends' and I don't even have a pharmaceutical excuse!

[cosmolinguist]

Yeah, I can't even figure that out :) My friends are just weird.

[cosmolinguist]

I'm not making out with any plastic friends :)

[v15u4l-3rr0r.livejournal.com]

I am not writing about angry at myself I am getting for starting to feel like shit again because it's the winter. I am also not writing about going to see my GP about it because I don't want any mental health whatsits to interfere with Charing Cross in any way whatsoever.

[cosmolinguist]

Aw, dude. That's hard. I feel crappy in the winter too, and I know you know this but it's no good being angry with yourself about it...though sometimes I am, too, so I know how easy that is to say and impossible it is to do. Try to be kind to yourself. x

[trinker.livejournal.com]

I'm Not Writing about plans and hopes and futures and fears.

Um. A whole lot.

[cosmolinguist]

I hope you have enough other outlets for that.

(And I trust you know you're talking to a potential one right now :) )