#7

[cosmolinguist]

A lot of people found out about the both at the same time, so at the wake they were giving me congratulations along with their condolences.

Some said they were sorry that my anticipated happiness was marred by such tragedy, but I am glad the tragedy is marred by anticipated happiness!

I know it will be hard for my family not to have him there—he was supposed to be an usher; we have his tux ordered and everything—and it's so hard for me to contemplate leaving them ... but also, as I kept saying, it'll be nice to see many of these relatives and neighbors again soon, under happier circumstances than these. People always lament that the things that bring us together are often bad ones like funerals; I hope to give us a good excuse to eat hotdish and coleslaw together.

There are lots of reasons I'm glad to be marrying Andrew, but Celebratory Hotdish is another to add to the list.

Comments

educate me

[newwaytowrite.livejournal.com]

what is Celebratory Hotdish?

Re: educate me

[stealthmunchkin.livejournal.com]

As I understand it, vomit, but going in rather than coming out...

[cosmolinguist]

Says someone who thinks "bubble and squeak" is food!

(I told my family that I'd confirmed my original suspicions about what this is, after Dad's cousin asked about it. Then Dad wanted to know if it was called that because that's what you do after you eat it.)

Re: educate me

[cosmolinguist]

Hotdish you have when you're happy, I suppose. As opposed to hotdish you have when you're sad, which is what we ate yesterday.

[riddley-walker.livejournal.com]

but I am glad the tragedy is marred by anticipated happiness!

very cool, Ms. Lama.
that makes tons of sense to me.

[cosmolinguist]

Oh good. I feel a little callous, being so excited to hear this news from Andrew today, when my mom is only a tiny bit better than she was yesterday, which must've been about the worst day of her life. It was probably the worst day of my life, too ... but the difference is that I see that as all the more reason to be try to go back to being happy.

[riddley-walker.livejournal.com]

i think as long as you give yr mom space to do whatever she needs to greive, yr not being callous.
there is no right way to greive.
you know what i mean? for you or her. you both need to do things yr own way and give each other loving kindness.
but you know that.

everything i try to write about this sounds stupid and trite.
words are so useless sometimes.

if i lived near you i'd just be bringing you food (that is what my family does in these situations, brings food), or i'd be offering you take you out for coffee when you need a break but not really saying much.

[cosmolinguist]

People have been bringing us so much stuff. The freezer's full. Mom's already convinced we'll never eat it all. Everybody around here brings food. They want to help; they want us to be taken care of.

[paninogirl.livejournal.com]

I loved hearing the story around the reason the particular meal we had at Chris's funeral yesterday was chosen.

Here's hoping that you have just as memorable stories about your wedding dinner of choice. :)

something must be said for you.

[eerielass.livejournal.com]

very cool ms lama
or wise
or [something]
or
thank you to [something] for your existence.