Stupid twitterpation
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cosmolinguistMy friend is afraid her boyfriend is going to ask her to marry him.
That's okay with me. I've been in enough weddings recently.
I understand how weird it is to think that, just because you've been dating for a handful of months (since September or October, in this case) and your relationship is going along fairly smoothly, you and everyone around you starts to wonder about the prospect of you getting married.
"It's forever," she said, really drawing out all three syllables. It's not really true that everyone's jaded about marriage now; some people still respect the institution. We are two of them.
"I'm nineteen!" she said. Sure, I was just at the wedding of two 19-year-olds, but that doesn't mean I don't sympathize. I remember being nineteen. Until a week or two before my twentieth birthday, I hadn't been asked on a date or kissed goodnight or anything.
My favorite part was when she said, "I'm just afraid that on my wedding night I'm gonna hear Vincent Price's voice in my head saying 'Forever-er-er' in a creepy, echo-y voice. And I'll curl up in a ball and say 'Aaahhhh! Vincent Price is in my bedroom!"
Yeah, that is a scary image. And it might require a bit of explanation to one's new spouse.
I didn't have much to tell her--no one's threatening to propose to me--but I did say that's okay to date without getting married. Or it's okay to agree to get married in five years or something. Marriage, luckily, is not a now-or-never offer. I'm sure she knew all that, but hearing it seemed to make her feel better.
I told her it was wedding season, too. She knows I was in one on Friday. Heck, my parents' anniversary is today (31 years!). And she mentioned something about knowing other people who're getting married soon, too. People who started dating when she and her boyfriend did are now engaged. (Naturally such a line of thought could be disturbing, especially to one who's leery of telling even me that she loves her boyfriend.) There are always zillions of weddings between, say, April and August.
"Everybody's twitterpated," she said.
"Exactly!" Maybe love is in the air in the spring. It's like pollen. And I think at least some people are allergic to it, like pollen.
That's okay with me. I've been in enough weddings recently.
I understand how weird it is to think that, just because you've been dating for a handful of months (since September or October, in this case) and your relationship is going along fairly smoothly, you and everyone around you starts to wonder about the prospect of you getting married.
"It's forever," she said, really drawing out all three syllables. It's not really true that everyone's jaded about marriage now; some people still respect the institution. We are two of them.
"I'm nineteen!" she said. Sure, I was just at the wedding of two 19-year-olds, but that doesn't mean I don't sympathize. I remember being nineteen. Until a week or two before my twentieth birthday, I hadn't been asked on a date or kissed goodnight or anything.
My favorite part was when she said, "I'm just afraid that on my wedding night I'm gonna hear Vincent Price's voice in my head saying 'Forever-er-er' in a creepy, echo-y voice. And I'll curl up in a ball and say 'Aaahhhh! Vincent Price is in my bedroom!"
Yeah, that is a scary image. And it might require a bit of explanation to one's new spouse.
I didn't have much to tell her--no one's threatening to propose to me--but I did say that's okay to date without getting married. Or it's okay to agree to get married in five years or something. Marriage, luckily, is not a now-or-never offer. I'm sure she knew all that, but hearing it seemed to make her feel better.
I told her it was wedding season, too. She knows I was in one on Friday. Heck, my parents' anniversary is today (31 years!). And she mentioned something about knowing other people who're getting married soon, too. People who started dating when she and her boyfriend did are now engaged. (Naturally such a line of thought could be disturbing, especially to one who's leery of telling even me that she loves her boyfriend.) There are always zillions of weddings between, say, April and August.
"Everybody's twitterpated," she said.
"Exactly!" Maybe love is in the air in the spring. It's like pollen. And I think at least some people are allergic to it, like pollen.
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Date: 2003-05-27 01:30 pm (UTC)I'm sorry, dear, but I can't marry you because it will make me hear Vincent Price in my head.
If she says that, perhaps he won't want to marry her anymore, and she'll be off he hook :-P Of course, it might just scare him away...
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Date: 2003-05-27 05:18 pm (UTC)I guess that means it must be love.
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Date: 2003-05-27 03:00 pm (UTC)i got engaged before i turned 20. married before i was 22. it sounds like your friend has her head straight a lot better than i did.
the only advice i have on this subject is this (if you want to pass it on, if you think it's relevant): do not do anything out of fear. fear of being alone. fear of never meeting anyone else if he goes. fear of never connecting with anyone.
these are all good motivators for making "forever" get a lot shorter, very quickly. deepening relationships and commitments should be done for positive reasons -- to build and add to each other's lives, never as a bulwark against subtraction.
"forever" ended shortly after i turned 30, after several years of all the negatives eating us alive.
*hears some minor chords being played on an organ somewhere*
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Date: 2003-05-27 05:13 pm (UTC)That sadder-but-wiser you is still gonna be playin' a kazoo for me!
Oh, I forgot ...
Date: 2003-05-27 05:20 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2003-05-27 09:18 pm (UTC)and, hey, if "twitterpated" is a word, so can "twitterpation" be. if disney wants to create words from nothing, we can mutate them as we please, so say i...
re: pollen
Date: 2003-05-27 04:12 pm (UTC)Re: pollen
Date: 2003-05-27 05:07 pm (UTC)Grrr
Date: 2003-05-27 04:29 pm (UTC)