A thing that is fun to do

[cosmolinguist]

It's really good for the ol' self-esteem to hear that someone fancies me, even if unattainable.

Go on, tell people you like that you like them. (Especially if they are me!*)


* Joke. Honest.

Comments

[borneaway.livejournal.com]

Ah, but while it may be good for your self esteem, is it much good for the self-esteem of those who might profess their fancying of another only to receive the polite smile that says "That's lovely, thank you. However I wish it to be known that the reverse is not the case."

I say keep your powder dry, people. And if you must profess, pick your moment and pick it wisely.

[haggis.livejournal.com]

I don't know if that is such a bad thing. What I fear when I tell people I like them is contemptuous laughter or ridicule. I can't control their response but I can hope that they are at least pleased or flattered to be told, even if they don't reciprocate.

[borneaway.livejournal.com]

Well, yes, that would be unpleasant - contemptuous laughter. Still, it would tell you something about that person I suppose.

[bethanthepurple.livejournal.com]

I think it would be cheeky for someone to say they fancied someone, and expect reciprocation. I like saying to people when I fancy them, and usually the response is "Thankyou" and no great change in the relationship. If I expected mutual attraction, then I could imagine that that would make the other person feel awkward, thus spoiling a friendship.

If I want to see if the attraction is mutual, then I'll ask. I've been turned down a lot. I've also struck lucky a lot. Neither responses are world changing.

Sorry for highjacking your thread minnesattva! I shall go and compliment booty at skating this evening :D

[cosmolinguist]

No need to apologize! Far from hijacking I think it's interesting to see what people think, and great that a silly throwaway remark from me brings out such thoughtfulness in several of my friends, proving again that they are awesome.

[borneaway.livejournal.com]

Of course I don't think you should ever "expect" reciprocation. I suppose all I'm saying is that advising everyone who fancies someone to announce it to the object of their fancying might be inviting some bruised egos and/or chaos in those of a less robust temperament than you, dear bethanthepurple. I know of a few friendships that have changed in some subtle (or unsubtle) way after friend A announced that they fancied hitherto platonic friend B.

[uglybuffy.livejournal.com]

I fear them totally freaking out and never talking to me again!!! (and no, that's not a groundless fear)

[borneaway.livejournal.com]

I'm with you on this. A friendship that has a frisson added to it by a small crush could end up as a non-friendship. I suppose it depends how you announce your feelings. You can be subtle.

[spacegirlkate.livejournal.com]

Ha! Well, I always assumed that if we met in person, I'd fancy you. How's that?