cosmolinguist | The next year of good hair

I asked social media for shampoo recommendations the other day because I was sad the only shampoo I've ever found to be good for my hair is now only available online and I didn't want to pay ridiculous shipping costs for something already expensive.

I got a bunch of suggestions, but I also had my friend Lucy say she'd get me one of these Lush ones I was sulking about. My first thought was oh god, I look like I'm fishing for gifts? but my second was that this was ridiculous and it was a surprise from a kind friend. I worked hard to bite my tongue and just say thanks and be nice, because I know it's no fun trying to do a nice thing for someone and have them argue with you or make you do the emotional work of dealing with their guilty feelings.

Anyway, this was a week or two ago and I'd mostly forgotten about it until I got a text saying my Lush order would be delivered on Thursday. Then I got another saying the same on Friday and figured it was a mistake, a glitch repeating the previous day's message, but no: I just got home to two Lush boxes. One from Lucy with two shampoos in, another completely unexpected from my friend Amy, with face mask, foot soak and two more shampoos.

I'm so touched and delighted. I've got like a year's worth of shampoo now, and a couple of treats I'd also never buy for myself.

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lilysea

My first thought was oh god, I look like I'm fishing for gifts?

I didn't read your post this way, and I don't think anyone else did, either! ^_^

cosmolinguist

Probably not, and it certainly hadn't crossed my mind when I wrote the post, but I was raised to immediately become a ball of guilt once anyone has offered to do anything nice for me; I always look at whatever I've said/done differently then and reckon I "made" them offer somehow. It is annoying and it is hard to stop which is why I'm still working on it now. :)