Connections

[cosmolinguist]

Today D and I went over to play board games with his girlfriend, P, and her other partner, J. We played Ticket to Ride, which went better for me than it had before because I thought to take a photo of the board before we started, to make it easier to scrutinize privately when my knowledge of European geography or history (Petrograd! Constantinople! big Germany!) let me down and I needed to make sure I was building the route I wanted.

The best part, in a way, was leaning that J has been having the same kind of issues I have: having "only" one other partner, having less of a support network outside the polycule, struggling with feeling lonely when the two of them are together and then feeling bad about the struggle because of course we want our beloveds to be happy...

It's like they read my mind! I was totally fine and then I totally wasn't by their date night last Thursday.

It helped to know that it's not just me, but it also helped that even though it wouldn't really be extending their support network, I'd be happy to go swimming with them which is one of the things they said they'd like to do more.

So we're going to try that this Thursday. (This does require me to not be out of spoons once I get back from a work thing in Leeds on Thursday, but I'm hopeful about that.)

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