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[cosmolinguist]

Somebody I know online got her Indefinite Leave to Remain. So happy for her.

It made me remember finding out about mine, which is so much clearer in my head than my citizenship even though it was nine years earlier. It was a bright spring day, I had to go to the sorting office and in anticipation of what I thought I'd be picking up I wanted him with me so we both got the bus. I picked up the big envelope and we went back outside and I opened it. And he said "now you can divorce me!" and I kicked his shin playfully but it ended up being harder than I meant to.

Funny how I'd forgotten all about that. I don't think I've thought of that in years.

Funny how he had to make it all about him and his vast insecurity immediately.

Funny how I actually hadn't been able to divorce him before then, not if I wanted to stay in the UK which I did. Funny how we wouldn't have survived those first two years if not for that.

I haven't been able to stop thinking about this all day.