[340/365] sleeping in one another's beds

[cosmolinguist]

I'm so tired. What's today's question?

6. If you have a partner, have you ever had to sleep in separate beds?

Ha! Well I wouldn't say I "have" to but I certainly don't expect to every night when diffrentcolours's other partner also lives here. We have a sort of rota. Tonight I'll be sleeping on my own! Usually I get the weekends but I won't this time, he'll be away.

I'm not very good at sleeping on my own; I'm really not used to it. Andrew used to hate me being away overnight or even just wanting to sleep in the spare room when my mental or physical health was particularly bad. I chafed at that a lot but I guess I got used to always having a warm body there. If my mental health is bad now, I struggle to fall asleep more if I'm on my own. I think I need that ADHD body-doubling thing for sleep, heh. I just need to be around someone who's doing it and then I can do it easier.

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[otter]

We both snore and sometimes I'm just too restless to sleep and don't want to bother him. So I'll go either to the guest room or the sofa. And once in a while, he goes and stays at his apartment for the night without me. I usually go when he does, but if I have a lot of work to catch up on or I'm not feeling well, I'll stay at the house.

[cosmolinguist]

D used to worry about his snoring disturbing me but I'm so weird I find it soothing to listen to. I think it sometimes helps tell my brain that it's time for sleep too.

[annofowlshire]

On nights that I’m alone, white noise seems to help a lot.

[cosmolinguist]

I use particular, familiar podcasts or audiobooks to achieve a similar purpose I think. :)

My trouble isn't so much falling asleep as staying asleep, I have sleep-maintenance insomnia.

[sfred]

I mostly sleep better with company, too.

[finding_helena]

I don't sleep well without him. For a while I was working a little more than an hour from home and there were a couple of times I stayed overnight there when I was working a turn and burn, but I felt like I never slept as well as what I did at home. Maybe the sound of his Cpap machine is soothing lol.

[cosmolinguist]

I did like the sound of Andrew's CPAP machine! Although I did not like sometimes getting cold air blown in my ear. :)