A horrible writer for a horrible UK tabloid once wrote of a blind trans woman: "being blind, how did she know she was the wrong sex?"
.... Yeah, don't tell me who that is because I will punch them through the internet.
But truthfully, I don't even label myself non-binary (though I don't mind others using it for me), I feel no differently about they/them than any other pronouns
God, thiiiiis. Saying non-binary, to me, acknowledges a binary simply because you can't be "not something" if that something doesn't exist. My gender has absolutely no relationship to the binary. I deeply uncomfortable calling myself non-binary because of that, though (like you) I don't care if other people use that label for me.
This is also part of the reason I don't call myself trans, by the by. In my head, to be transgender, you have to acknowledge that gender exists and you have a relationship to it, even if that relationship is "my gender doesn't fit this societal concept". Yes, I am technically trans because trans is often interpreted by people to mean "not cisgender". But to call myself trans feels like a lie because, again, I don't have a relationship to gender at all. It's kind of like me trying to imagine what it would be like to be a frog or beluga. It's such an alien concept that I can't understand it at all.
I know that this is just nitpicking. That's why I kind of shrug and go "meh, whatever" when people call me non-binary or trans. It's convenient and it's technically correct. If I don't have the energy to go into deep conversation about what it is to be agender, calling me non-binary or trans is good enough.
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Date: 2021-04-26 04:46 pm (UTC).... Yeah, don't tell me who that is because I will punch them through the internet.
But truthfully, I don't even label myself non-binary (though I don't mind others using it for me), I feel no differently about they/them than any other pronouns
God, thiiiiis. Saying non-binary, to me, acknowledges a binary simply because you can't be "not something" if that something doesn't exist. My gender has absolutely no relationship to the binary. I deeply uncomfortable calling myself non-binary because of that, though (like you) I don't care if other people use that label for me.
This is also part of the reason I don't call myself trans, by the by. In my head, to be transgender, you have to acknowledge that gender exists and you have a relationship to it, even if that relationship is "my gender doesn't fit this societal concept". Yes, I am technically trans because trans is often interpreted by people to mean "not cisgender". But to call myself trans feels like a lie because, again, I don't have a relationship to gender at all. It's kind of like me trying to imagine what it would be like to be a frog or beluga. It's such an alien concept that I can't understand it at all.
I know that this is just nitpicking. That's why I kind of shrug and go "meh, whatever" when people call me non-binary or trans. It's convenient and it's technically correct. If I don't have the energy to go into deep conversation about what it is to be agender, calling me non-binary or trans is good enough.