I am lucky that my mum's mum does this sort of thing to and about my mum all the time, so my mum 90% of the time manages to restrain herself from doing it to her children (although sometimes she needs a bit of a whack with a cluebat not to trigger my very mentally ill older sister with seemingly harmless but are obviously distressing things).

Sorry you have that on top of exhausting fail travel and impossibly difficult sad bereavement times away from your UK home. I think sometimes grandparents can be useful to break the "tut tut" response cos they can take a step back and are genuinely amused at things we can do that they either couldn't or never thought to do.

Can't say anything more useful than *I* liked your hair because it was really very cool.

Thinking of you.