it shouldn't have been on you to be in the face of this harmful bigotry
Oh that's a good point; that's about the only meta thing I didn't manage to drag into the section on "should I have to disclose my bad experiences" section -- not only do abled people demand our medical history and our sob stories, they need everything to be presented in a way that centers them, flatters them, and comforts them.
I don't really know how to talk to a website that tells me "Our London office is run by 23-year-olds, who write seriously hot takes, sickeningly accurate guides to life, and chat to Jeremy Corbyn about Love Island," [the reference might be lost on you, but trust me these people will think I'm an actual alien of an entirely foreign species] but I had to try to think about that. I ended up taking out a lot of sarcasm and swearing for that reason.
I copied my email here mostly so I can use it for future reference since a lot of this stuff comes up all the time, but also because this kind of calm and constructive response often has more of an effect on lurkers than its intended audience. Maybe they'll just tl;dr this and never read it, maybe it'll end up as a legendary ludicrous complaint like the one my lesser-spotted boyfriend and his colleagues remembered for years about the person upset a Michael Jackson gig had been canceled the same week that their cat died, but no matter what effect it has or doesn't have on its intended target, a friend of mine has already said they've kept it to use as a reference in future, and that makes me feel like some good has come from it already.
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Oh that's a good point; that's about the only meta thing I didn't manage to drag into the section on "should I have to disclose my bad experiences" section -- not only do abled people demand our medical history and our sob stories, they need everything to be presented in a way that centers them, flatters them, and comforts them.
I don't really know how to talk to a website that tells me "Our London office is run by 23-year-olds, who write seriously hot takes, sickeningly accurate guides to life, and chat to Jeremy Corbyn about Love Island," [the reference might be lost on you, but trust me these people will think I'm an actual alien of an entirely foreign species] but I had to try to think about that. I ended up taking out a lot of sarcasm and swearing for that reason.
I copied my email here mostly so I can use it for future reference since a lot of this stuff comes up all the time, but also because this kind of calm and constructive response often has more of an effect on lurkers than its intended audience. Maybe they'll just tl;dr this and never read it, maybe it'll end up as a legendary ludicrous complaint like the one my lesser-spotted boyfriend and his colleagues remembered for years about the person upset a Michael Jackson gig had been canceled the same week that their cat died, but no matter what effect it has or doesn't have on its intended target, a friend of mine has already said they've kept it to use as a reference in future, and that makes me feel like some good has come from it already.