We spent a lot of time creating a "things to do to get back to 5" list in my group, so of course yours will differ.
1. Things where I feel competent/mastery. For me: -- cooking -- rereading my own best writing. The posts I'm most proud of, the advocacy letters I've written--these remind me I can be effective -- providing technical support in writing or F2F with a friend -- rereading familiar writing that I really love (I already know the plot & characters, so I can focus on how the whole accomplishes the goal. Ursula K Le Guin is good for this, as well as great fanfic.)
2. Vitamin L for love -- I have all the physical cards people have sent me for the past 30+ years, and I paw through them -- grooming and snuggling my dog -- snuggling MyGuy (wordlessly) -- do something that I'm passionate about -- (for me, this includes researching sidewalk design, imagining accessible SF cons, reading elaborate fanfic theories) -- listening to music that reminds me of happy times -- singing along
3. Recognizing that this too will pass. The associated DBT skill is called "Riding The Wave" -- everything comes and goes. Good times pass, bad times pass -- I've survived bad times -- Holding on and surviving may feel terrible, and it will pass -- just because I feel horrible doesn't mean I'm bad or I'm going to explode
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1. Things where I feel competent/mastery. For me:
-- cooking
-- rereading my own best writing. The posts I'm most proud of, the advocacy letters I've written--these remind me I can be effective
-- providing technical support in writing or F2F with a friend
-- rereading familiar writing that I really love (I already know the plot & characters, so I can focus on how the whole accomplishes the goal. Ursula K Le Guin is good for this, as well as great fanfic.)
2. Vitamin L for love
-- I have all the physical cards people have sent me for the past 30+ years, and I paw through them
-- grooming and snuggling my dog
-- snuggling MyGuy (wordlessly)
-- do something that I'm passionate about -- (for me, this includes researching sidewalk design, imagining accessible SF cons, reading elaborate fanfic theories)
-- listening to music that reminds me of happy times
-- singing along
3. Recognizing that this too will pass. The associated DBT skill is called "Riding The Wave"
-- everything comes and goes. Good times pass, bad times pass
-- I've survived bad times
-- Holding on and surviving may feel terrible, and it will pass
-- just because I feel horrible doesn't mean I'm bad or I'm going to explode
I hope this helps a little.